Powerful men shit on their marriage vows, perhaps sabotage other presidential hopefuls
To be honest, I would really like to give men as a group the benefit of the doubt. However, headlines continue to damage my optimism with extensive coverage of the direct correlation between men, a position of power, and a total lack of respect for their wives.
You’ve no doubt, by now, heard of former Presidential hopeful Edward’s disgusting affair with a campaign worker while his wife was being treated for terminal cancer. Now, he admits to the affair, although he denies that he fathered an illegitimate child. Honestly, I cannot determine whether or not he is telling the truth about the nonexistence of his child at this point, because the only concrete fact I have to work with is that John Edwards is a lying sack of shit and a scumbag.
Regardless, my heart goes out to Elizabeth Edwards, and I hope that her recovery is not strained by the stress of her husband’s extramarital affair. It’s truly heartbreaking to see such strong political women brought low by their husbands.
The blogosphere has already kicked into high gear, most proclaiming that Edward’s affair shouldn’t affect his political career. I highly disagree.
Is someone’s character relevant to the job they do? Absolutely. I wouldn’t want a narcissist as my boss no matter how good he or she is for the company. Likewise, I do think that someone that talks about the definition of marriage and women’s issues should be someone that has respect for his wife, who has been nothing but supportive throughout his career, at least enough to have the decency to seek a divorce before moving onto younger “conquests”.
Does Edward’s cheating surprise me? Not really. I would like to say that I have a better opinion of men in power, but I don’t. The rules of the glass ceiling are: (1) you must be twice as smart and ambitious as a man to succeed and (2) you must be thrice as moral and likable. In short, men can be cheating douchebags and still run the world. Women can’t even secretly hate babies and expect to be elected to a city council position.
Part of the reason nobody seems to care if men are immoral gas bags is that the media would rather stick their heads in the sand for ten months than slander the name of a penis-toting politician (unless he’s black, then he’s fair game).
Am I the only one that thinks that the Democratic party (which I am not a part of, due to their recently assholish brush-off of the concerns of women voters, and the existence of third parties) might not be a morass of simmering resentment right now if Edwards had done the decent thing and made sure that the people voting for him weren’t doing so under the assumption that he was a upright sort of fellow?
Next time someone wibbles on about how the Clinton camp may or may not have lied or stole votes in the primaries, I would like to draw attention to the fact that Edwards had the gall to pretend he was the supportive husband of an ailing woman while he was not-so-secretly banging someone else, and the mass media covered his ass until he had the decency to fess up.
Whether or not you agree that someone’s infidelity would make them a bad president, some other voter that checked the box next to Edwards might not have the same opinion. I voted for Clinton, and the resentment I have for how the mass media treated her has fought its way back to the surface of my mind in light of the fact that not only did the mass media cover the ass of a cheater, the election might have gone very differently if they portrayed Clinton and Edwards accurately. Even if Obama would have still won, the primaries might have not have dragged on as long as they did.
In conclusion, fuck you mass media. Fuck you John Edwards. Fuck you Democratic party.